It’s on every singe Christian girl’s lips -“What Does God say about my body?”
I thought I had full confidence in my body until my face had a major acne breakout at the beginning of the year. I had those round red pimples on my face, rough patches and dark under-eyes that made me look like a zombie. Oftentimes, I would go to the bathroom and stare at my not so flat tummy, by that I mean that I have a belly pooch underneath my fine clothing and expensive perfume.
I know some persons don’t subscribe to Christian ladies dealing with negative self image. They will scrunch their nose with a fine wrinkle across their forehead if you ever mention anything about hating your body. Some might hit you ‘gbas gbos’ with a self righteous statement “but you are a daughter of Zion”. I know I am a daughter of Zion washed by the blood of the lamb, saved by grace and consumed by the eternal love of the only begotten son of God but the truth remains that “I HATE MY BODY”
In this blog post,we will look at some of the things God says about our body image as Christian women.
I HATE MY BODY: AND THAT’S THE TRUTH
If you have never had issues with how you look or felt a bit insecure because of a friend’s tall silhouette and curves ,or even how all her clothes magnify and worship her body like a fine piece of art, smooth face and no breakouts. If you have always loved your body then I must confess you deserve an award or better still leave your phone number in the comment box.
We all need to call you so you give us a secret to that mind hack. But if you have had issues sometimes with how the dress isn’t fitted to your body or how you wake up with a pimple that speaks to the rest of your face, the black spots and your height then read on to find out what God says about your body image.
BOARDING SCHOOL WAS LOTS OF FUN BUT IT ALSO GAVE ME A DOSE OF INFERIORITY COMPLEX.
There were times I wanted to blend in, to have big boobs and behinds just like the other teenagers who were just developing faster than I was but my breast refused to grow and my slim body wouldn’t let me be great in life.
I CAN’T EXERCISE TO SAVE MY LIFE!
I am not a huge fan of exercise, I admit it. If you ever see me jogging on the streets, you better run too because something is chasing me! That’s my feeling about exercise in a nutshell. It is WRONG I know but I’m trying to do more exercises and if you already do all that crunches, sit ups and planks then glory to God sis.
When the acne breakout on my face eventually cleared out, I still had some other things I wanted to make better. I remember days I would walk up and down the stairs to get firmer legs just because someone called my calf fat not until a certain person complimented my calf and you could imagine the look on my face that very day.
Bodily exercise is awesome but won’t give you that self love you need, it all comes from a place of conviction. Exercise because you need to be healthy and not because you need validation from others.
I find myself stand yet again looking into my full-length mirror and I realize I am not satisfied. No matter what clothing I have on or how good my hair looks or if my makeup is on point, I am never satisfied. I may get compliments on my hair, my makeup; my clothing…it didn’t matter. I wasn’t satisfied.
We have a community of single Christian ladies who are always in doubt of the several compliments from both men and God on their self image. It’s almost like they are telling everyone else that regardless their compliments, they still maintain their stand on the belief that they are ugly and no motivational speech can change that.
Wait, Don’t count me in yet on your list of friends trying to convince you to love yourself, drink water, exercise or look in the mirror and tell yourself beautiful self affirmation appraisal to make you feel good for a season. I’m just here on an assignment; to let you know what GOD says about your body image.
I didn’t say any of these things I’m about to tell you. If you have issues with them or do not want to believe them, Sis, just ask God why he said those things. Well yeah, he said them in the scriptures and I’m sure you are spiritual enough to go battle it out with him in prayer and perhaps confront him if you think they are lies.
Why are we even wasting time, let us look into the very archives of God and draw some truths for ourselves. Shall we?
WHAT GOD SAYS ABOUT YOUR BODY
You are in the world but not of the world
Each time I stood before the mirror, I always tried to analyze myself and judge myself by what the world says. I always weighed myself by how much compliments I got on the yellow dress I wore to church service.
Were people really looking at me? You think bro goodness noticed I wore a new shoe? What of sister precious, does she notice my new hairdo? I bet she thinks I look ugly.
I watched a short clip one time of a girl who felt insecure about her looks and judged the looks of people not knowing they were merely admiration towards her. That’s exactly how we all behave.
When the lord says, though you are in the world, you are not of the world; he is basically letting us into the very heart of God and his intricate details about us. We are not to define our self image by the standards of the world, the girls on vogue and Genevieve magazine nor the other celebrities we follow on Instagram. You are a different breed.
Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.
Romans 12:2 (ESV)
You are wonderfully and fearfully made
I need you to understand this hard truth. There would be always be someone who is taller, thinner, richer and smarter than you within your vicinity.
You know that sister right? Yes, the one with the long legs and slim body who earns the admiration of all. You know her right? I bet you five thousand naira that she feels insecure about a particular part of her body. She might even want to change herself in some aspects.
You don’t have to have it all body wise and intellect. There would always be a smarter person at your work place but you need to learn the habit of contentment and appreciation. Reassure yourself that regardless how protruded your tummy looks, that you are wonderfully made.
In essence the very nature of God was transferred to you at creation, the lord took out his time to mould you into this beautiful lady you are now
For you formed my inward parts;
you knitted me together in my mother’s womb.
I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.a]
Wonderful are your works;
my soul knows it very well.
My frame was not hidden from you,
when I was being made in secret,
intricately woven in the depths of the earth
Just look at such confession of love
Psalm 139 ESV
The hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit
I once read a tweet by a funny fellow and he wrote: there is nothing like inner beauty. If you are ugly, you are ugly. After all, men do not walk around with an x-ray machine to check how beautiful your insides are
He is right; nobody checks your inner virtues at first especially when they want to ask you out. But I know a generation of men who are more concerned about your virtues than looks.
There is an irresistible aroma from the life of a virtuous woman. This is why a young man can happily marry that so called ugly woman. And insist that she is the most beautiful creature he had ever seen.
If you don’t love yourself as much and depend on the validations of others then you might remain entrapped in a box of doubt
What have you learned so far?
My happiness when I walk out the door should not be because I think I look acceptable for the world’s standard. It should not be because I feel that one day after a good workout; I might emerge as the only admirable lady on the block. However, it should be because I find my joy, my worth, my acceptance in HIM!
It should be because of what God says about me, not what the world does. And we learn what He says about us in those Bible verses about beauty that the Bible is rich with! I should be happy because I don’t have to rely on my own willpower to eat healthy or exercise.
I can go to God, my ever present help! take my struggle and temptation to Him! I don’t need to struggle on my own with these things. HE is there to take the burden from me! And He will take the burden from you.
So when I look in the mirror now in the morning I don’t just look at my appearance. I look at myself and I tell myself what HE has to say. I affirm my worth with HIS word. It’s possible for me to sit down and write this to you and logically say what I should and shouldn’t do or should or shouldn’t feel…and yet I still look in that mirror and have the same old feelings.
Just like Paul… I might cry
Wretched man that I am! Who will deliver me from this body of death?
Only that I need deliverance from this body of doubt?
Listen, you are not immune to judging yourself by the world’s standards. We are not immune to feeling less than enough. We feel inadequate at times, whether it’s in appearance, character, as a sister, daughter or anything at all. As long as I base my worth and my happiness on worldly standards, I am going to be miserable.
One thing I do now, I set my eyes on the prize and goal. Looking unto Christ the author and finisher of my faith. Gradually, you too will take the steps I consciously took to get to where I am right now. Here, I don’t have to worry about what someone says about me rather what God has to say.